Tips and Insights from Counselling with Lauren 

Planning a wedding is a joyous occasion, but it can also bring significant stress and anxiety. During my recent Instagram Live session with Lauren, a Humanistic Counsellor, we delved into some crucial aspects of navigating mental health during wedding planning, covering topics like setting boundaries with family, dealing with social anxiety, and addressing personal appearance concerns. Here’s a recap of our discussion with some practical advice for couples.

Setting Boundaries with Family

Setting boundaries with family can be challenging, especially when emotions run high during wedding planning. Here are some steps to help you establish and maintain healthy boundaries:

1. Identify Your Needs: Reflect on what you need from your family and friends to support your mental health. What do you need for yourself to feel comfortable and at ease?
2. Communicate Clearly: Express your needs and concerns openly with your family. It’s natural to worry about upsetting others, but remember that their emotions are their responsibility, not yours.
3. Understand Your Fears: Acknowledge what might be holding you back from setting boundaries. Often, it’s the fear of upsetting others or feeling responsible for their emotions.
4. Prioritize Your Well-being: Put your mental health first. By setting boundaries, you’re ensuring you can enjoy your special day without unnecessary stress.

Managing Social Anxiety

Social anxiety can make wedding planning and the big day itself feel overwhelming. Here are some strategies to help you manage:

1. Identify Triggers: Understand what aspects of social settings cause you anxiety. Knowing your triggers can help you prepare better.
2. Create a Comfortable Environment: Consider what you need to feel comfortable in social settings. This might include having familiar people around or setting up a quiet break space.
3. Support Each Other: Discuss with your partner how you can support each other on the wedding day. Having a plan for time-outs or breaks can be incredibly helpful.
4. Consider a Smaller Wedding: If large gatherings heighten your anxiety, consider a smaller wedding with people you feel safe with. You could even have a separate ceremony with just witnesses and a larger party on a different day.
5. Use Relaxation Techniques: Practice breathing exercises, anchor techniques, and other relaxation methods. Aromatherapy can also be calming.

Embracing Self-Love and Body Positivity

Concerns about personal appearance are common, but it’s essential to focus on self-love and acceptance. Here’s how:

1. Reflect on Your Motives: Ask yourself why changing your appearance is important. Is it for yourself, or are you worried about others’ perceptions?
2. Shift Your Focus: Remember that your wedding is about celebrating your love. If appearance is your primary concern, it might be worth exploring these feelings more deeply.
3. Practice Self-Love: Identify and celebrate the things you love about yourself. Consider doing this exercise with your partner, sharing what you both admire about each other.
4. Pre-Wedding Photoshoots: Book a photo shoot with your photographer before the wedding to try out poses and find what makes you feel most comfortable.
5. Surround Yourself with Supportive People: Invite friends and family who make you feel safe and loved. Their positive energy can boost your confidence.

Wedding planning is a journey, and it’s normal to face challenges along the way. By setting boundaries, managing social anxiety, and practising self-love, you can ensure your big day is filled with joy and meaningful memories. Remember, it’s your day – make it one that truly reflects you and your love story.